In the coming weeks and months we're going to be doing a lot of work together. Some of it will come naturally and easily for you. Other parts you'll resist and have a natural tendency to put off or skip outright.
All of it matters.
All of it is designed to move you along towards your goals, toward accomplishing those things that are important to you. Together we'll be creating numerous tasks and assignments for you to work on, and the things you resist doing are quite likely going to be the things that are the most important part: they'll be the stuff of you growing, reaching beyond what is already typically comfortable for you and into true expansion.
For this to work as best as it possibly can we need for you to create a commitment to doing the work and staying true to the plans we make.
In short, I need for you to create for yourself that this work matters.
On a scale of 1 to 10, without yet having gone through it, how much do you trust this process to be worth doing?
7 - I feel good about this, not sure but I'll play the game
Say more about that.
Well, I've already tripped up on some of my action plan, so I'm not sure I'll be able to keep up! I suppose that's part of what I'm trying to learn in working with you, and I REALLY want that.
So... yes, I'm up for the challenge and hope (without knowing!) that it will work!
How committed are you to making this work?
Pretty darn committed. There's a lot at stake for me, the promotion, the money, the freedom that comes with it; plus feeling more at peace rather than in the hectic swirl. So yeah, I really want to make the effort to get these things.
What's likely to prevent you from doing all of the work?
Hitting a wall. At some point sheer exhaustion kicks in, making it impossible to put in more effort, even if I want to. I don't know how to overcome that.
What sort of things are you apt to put off or ignore?
New practices or ideas, when I don't see (or am not sold on) the point.
Are those things worth doing to get you what you want?
Maybe? Again, I can be stubborn when it comes to trying new things. So I really want to be sold on something as worth doing. If you can convince me then yes, I'll find them worth doing.
What will you do when you're feeling stuck to get unstuck?
I'll try to notice when I think something is a waste of my time, and reach out to you to let you know that (and maybe ask you to convince me again--sorry, I'll try not to be annoying about this!).
How about if it's something you think is genuinely not worth doing?
I'll let you know point blank, I have no problem with doing that! Then I guess we can have a conversation.
I think if you can remind me of what's at stake, that'll help me to take on faith that something is worth doing, even if I'm not feeling it.
Thanks for bearing with. The point of all of this is to provide a reference point for you to circle back to when the going gets tough. We don't ever want to have your dashboard Overview tab to be littered with a red smattering of incomplete and overdue stuff.
Instead we want to cultivate a sea of timely green completion and accomplishment, a sure sign of you making worthy and difference-making progress.
Put this all together. In a paragraph or three please summarize your commitment to doing the work, what's at stake for your efforts here, and what your strategy is for keeping on track:
What's at stake for me in mastering this program is to really excel at work: to get that promotion, raise and freedom, and to do it without killing myself or burning out.
In summary, to gracefully do my best work and reap the rewards from it.
I'm committed to getting myself to that place, and when the going gets tough I promise to let you know and have a conversation to get back on track.
Now, commit to live like this:
I, Doc Miltene, commit to following through.